Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Perfect Imperfections

My latest Addiction: YOUTUBE

I go to youtube to learn how to do a couple of things. Recently, it was to learn how to tie Gele because a friends wedding is coming up in the states and she asked if I knew how. I was embarrassed because a yoruba girl like me doesn't know how to tie gele. I digress. 

There is this old tag on youtube called "Perfect Imperfections." I don't know who started it but you list out 3 physical features you dont like about yourself and 3 features that you love about yourself. Youtube celebrities are not like real life celebrities that are cookie cutter beautiful. Everybody is beautiful we just need to learn to play up our imperfections that make us Unique. So here I go:

3 physical features I dont like:

#1. My BOOOBS. I am quite endowed. I dunno if it is too much sharing to put my size out there but its big. Now its not grotesque big like omg look at her boobs (i think). But its Big enough that Victoria Secret Unsupportive bras leave a lot to be desired. One of the biggest compliments I get is "You pack your boobs well" Because I have to buy intense bras from the UK. :(. It has its upsides to it. Guys love it.LOL. 







#2. My Forehead. Love-hate relationship. sometimes it just brings out the ugly in me I feel. Even though I can rock a short hair cut with no qualms. some hairstyles just dont work. Makes me look like my hairline is receding. But then I look great in a gele.



#3. My nose. I should just delete this. I dont not like it, I think its the most pronounced feature on my face, wish it would just regress a little more.

#4. My not Skinniness. I wish i was naturally skinny. Like eat whatever you like skinny and not gain weight. I like food, I like to work out sometime. Honestly I dont even eat that much. Im not a fatty. But I wish it didnt take so much effort to 

3 physical features I Love


#1. My Legs. Love, Love, Love My legs. it has the athletic look to it, which I got clowned on for in sceondary school and it is slightly bow but it has come through for me. It has the right amount of muscle and fat. looks banging in heels and without.cant say more

#2. My Butt. Been rocking the butt before Kim K try to make it look cool. Its prolly my favorite feature along with my  legs. It balances out my boobs so I am not tipping over in the front. #nuffsaid

#3. My figure. I said My butt balances my boobs hence giving me a proportional figure. Even thuogh i ike my lower body better. I like my proportions even when I gain weight it goes round equally. I think my arms get more. The padding pretty much spreads everywhere

#4. My Face. Before I used to give my figure all the attention, that I'm just a plain Jane, But lately the face has resurfaced. I like my front view. you know how people tilt to the side to look good. I look good from the front. I dont have a favorite hair part (right or left) because they are almost equally good.

I did more than 3. 

Saturday, July 9, 2011

Dating, talking...

I have no clue what dating is, as far as I am concerned it is an american term. 

Talking, no clue either, it  seems like an african-american term (dont judge me).

This is what I know: Boy meets girl, boy likes girl. Boy asks girl to be his girlfriend, girl thinks about it---> she says yes or no depending on
1. his bank, his brain....
2. his persistence
3. if she actually likes him
4. his looks
5. if she doesn't want to be single
6. any combination of the above, no limit on the number of combinations 
and finally gives it a shot. 

Anyway that was how it was in secondary school, and the year or two after. Then my father sent me to obodo oyinbo to better myself. 
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So here I was thrown into the world of dating(white folk) 



and talking(black folk), it didn't work to well for me. 
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In this culture:
-men dont hunt women down, 
-the beginning is filled with heartache of uncertainty instead of bliss of the new 
-people are always trying to figure out what they want 
-they never want to choose. 

I mean people date for months before becoming exclusive, and talk for months before dating...
If a man is having a hard time deciding if he wants to make me his girlfriend, how would he marry me 
I know this sounds like fun for some people kudos to them. 

People say, Women know what they want from a man immediately they meet him. I am on this crew, I am on the fast track no time wasting. I never really dated for the fun of it. 

Honestly there are some great things about this american style of dating, it is the wining and dining involved in dating. I like food and I like how it is portrayed in the movies. that's pretty much it.

talking is never acceptable. the man doesn't want to work for you at all sha....

The only reason I mess with men is to husband one of  them someday and have their babies. oh yea and dream of my fancy engagement ring (another story about how nigerians get engaged).

What cultural "dating" style do you prefer??

Shola